Wednesday, January 8, 2014
IWSG: Bad Reviews and Bad Stuff in General
Hello everyone! For this round of IWSG, our wonderful co-hosts are: Bob Milne, River Fairchild, Julie Dao, and Sarah Foster!
Once again I am going to talk about something I am battling in order to trump it! I am going to talk about bad reviews and just general bad stuff said about my books, and potentially me.
Recently, I have promised a few of my friends that I will not read my bad reviews, I will not google myself. I will do nothing to intentionally search for bad things said about myself or my book.
SO much harder said than done, isn't it??!
Here's the thing about bad reviews: Any review put out there is an opinion, even if it's a good professional review that acts as a great critique. Any review that is just a rant about you and does not offer a critique, is not a professional review, and should be ignored simply because these types of reviews are not good for YOU. They do nothing for your confidence as a writer, and hey--no one should get in the way of how we feel about our books.
Why is it that one bad review slashes all the AMAZING reviews you might have? Well, the only rational I can come up with is that all this time we are writing and promoting our books and handing them to the world, we always fear one and two star reviews. We are often so afraid someone won't like our books, when the reality is, we cannot please everyone.
WE CANNOT PLEASE EVERYONE.
Repeat that. Over and over again until you believe it.
Here's the thing--bad reviews simply hurt our feelings, and no one likes to get their feelings hurt. When people write about our books, or us, as if we aren't human, that hurts even worse. This is why we must do our best to avoid that negativity. If a review is a great critique and you can learn from it, that's wonderful! But do not let yourself be brought down because of a couple bad reviews.
I made a promise that I would write a contract to myself. My contract will state that I will not read bad reviews about my books, I will not google myself. I will not read anything bad about myself. This contract will be rewritten each time I break it until I no longer do any of these things. If you have a hard time with reading bad things on the internet about yourself, then I challenge you to do the same!