Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Insecure Write Support Group
Today, I want to talk about language. I brought this up in a previous post, but I thought it seemed like such an insecure thing, that I wanted to dedicate this post to it.
Tell me the difference in tone in these two sentences:
1. "I am a writer"
2. "I want to be a writer"
Did ya guess?
One sounds a little less confident, right?
Here's a little background: Writer number one and two are both writers. Number two doesn't associate her writing with 'being a writer' she associates 'being a writer' with publication. Therefore, she sounds insecure.
Writer number two is me. Isn't it interesting that you aren't considered a legitimate writer most of the time because you're not published? Now, in a writing community, we're all treated equal. In the world out there, however, you're not taken seriously until you can say, "I'm getting published" or "I AM published!"
The only comparison I can think of is this: Relationships. Yes, relationships. A few of my friends have been in longer relationships. I will never catch up to their time because as the years go by, the years they are together gets longer. They will always say, "Oh, you'll learn, you haven't been together long enough." My question is, when exactly are we going to be together long enough to be accepted as a legitimate couple? See, their idea is, all relationships experience the same stresses. I disagree.
This is the same with writing when you face society. First, you're not legitimate until you're published. Once I'm published I won't be good unless I make a lot of money at it. Then, if I don't, my career choice will be considered a failure. This is to society, keep in mind.
But to me, as with my relationship, they don't have to be like everyone else's career or relationship. I want to write because I love it. I AM a writer because that's what I want to be. And my boyfriend is not like everyone else's boyfriend.
So, what am I trying to say after all this? Well, I'm going to become proactive in attempting to say "I am a writer" when I'm telling people about my career choice. In fact, I started my career 9 years ago. I think I'm legitimate enough!